When dealing with conflicting emotions

Try to focus on more supportive beliefs. We all occassionally have good reasons for some good beliefs only to find ourselves in contradictory environments, which cause us to change our long-held beliefs. Cognitive dissonance ensues. We can feel tortured by the conflicting values.

Here is a short list to help rearrange those long-held values when necessary.

A google search led to Kendra Cherry's citations at About.com and key strategies to reduce or minimize cognitive dissonance.

Here is a short list of three strategies to minimize negative feelings related to cognitive dissonance (conflicting values and beliefs):

1) focus on more supportive beliefs that outweigh dissonant belief or behavior
2) reduce the importance of the conflicting belief
3) change the conflicting belief so that it is consistent with other beliefs or behaviors

More info for future ideas at wikipediahttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_dissonance#Challenges_and_qualifications